When you choose to enter a relationship as a couple you are choosing to face challenges of all kinds and yet enjoy the fruits of love and blessing from the relationship. Circumstances of all kinds put an abundant strain on any relationship. Stressors experienced in a committed couple relationship may include built up blame and resentment; infidelity; issues related to sex and intimacy; trust issues; miscommunication; blame; disagreements with child rearing, finances, or religion; and the list goes on. It is tough when challenges go without some kind of resolution in a marriage or committed partnership. Challenges may include a partner continuing to suffer from substance abuse, another mental health issue, or even a physical health complication while the other partner feels helpless. Work and children continue to bring even more distractions to the couple's relationship. The situation may feel impossible and counseling is needed!
Couples learn to identify conflicts, strength, and patterns that keep them stuck. Couples counseling with the help of a family therapist who understands systems considers both families of origin, previous relationships, and examines the relationship's history of challenges and successes. A family therapist will help facilitate communication effectively, help understand each other’s needs for intimacy and trust, ensure relationship roles feel good to both partners, and help the couple face financial, physical and family challenges together.
There are times couples realize there is a need to separate for a time or permanently. There is simply no possible way to repair the damage already done or the behavior of one partner or the other is simply unacceptable to the other. In this case, counseling can provide the support and encouragement needed to find ways to divide property from the marriage and consider custodial issues together to promote as much peace and equity as possible. If there are children involved, there must be a focus to ensure their needs are fully met. Children will be affected by separation or divorce and their feelings and questions will be addressed in family therapy with consideration of their developmental age to ensure a healthy transition.
At Metro Denver Family Therapy, treatment may include techniques from several system theories including: